With great housing options on the Biddeford campus it may be hard to choose which one is perfect for you. Click the link below to watch a video that may help you make your decision!
It’s that time of the year when love is in the air, so to speak. Relationships aren’t just about who you love. They include your family, your friends, your classmates, and even the acquaintances you run into in the library or at the Harold Alfond Forum during an athletic event. To elaborate, people are interconnected through many different interactions and relationships with each other. Just picture a web extending from you. Each string on the web connects to some other person you have met. Each person forms their own web. You can see how this can get completely intertwined. Relationships are fundamental to being human. Humans are social creatures, even those who thrive on seclusion still enjoy the feeling that comes with having a few close companions.
The added stressors accompanied with college can really strain a healthy relationship. New relationships are formed and many broken down. It’s what you call “a part of life.” But with some steady effort put in from both sides of a relationship, it can be maintained. The key to a healthy relationship is equal effort. If one person is always there, always comforting, and always listening, and the other is none of these, the relationship is destined to fail. Below are a few general guidelines to having a successful relationship.
Communication. One of the most important aspects in a healthy relationship is communication. Sharing thoughts and ideas can really help a relationship and build an intimate foundation. It is important to be able to communicate how you are feeling and also be able to listen to how the other is as well. Communication can build trust in a relationship which is one of the qualities that really define the relationship as successful.
Expectations. A relationship built on unrealistic ideals will not last. In a relationship, realistic expectations are necessary. For example, expecting your close friend to ALWAYS answer your calls, especially in college, is an unattainable expectation. Extreme expectations lead to conflict. Instead, try setting a date that works for both you and your friend to chat on the phone.
Flexibility. Not everything works out according to plan in this universe. Be flexible in a relationship. If you had plans with a friend that fell through last minute, having a tantrum will not help the situation. Instead, suggest a rain-check and plan another time when you’re both available. Things come up all the time. A healthy relationship involves the flexibility of both partners and the ability to fix and mend plans.
You. In order for you to give your all in a relationship, you need to be ready. Take care of yourself. How can you be able to be there for someone if you yourself are having a rough time? A relationship is healthy when the people in it are. Take time for yourself and don’t overwhelm yourself with the demands of relationships. If someone is overbearing, tell them you need a break. You can only give 100% when you are feeling 100%.
These are just a few reminders of what makes a healthy relationship. Every relationship is unique and will require different pieces to the overall puzzle. While college seems like an obstacle for many relationships, see it as a time to build on them. Meet people, do things, and expand your horizons. You never know who you will meet and what may come of that relationship!
For more information on healthy, successful relationship building, check out the links below!
This website includes information for building and maintaining all kinds of healthy relationships.
This site is about how to keep you and your partner’s relationship healthy.
This is a guide to maintaining relationships, whether they are your friends, roommates, or partners.
Also, be sure to check out Speed Connections, sponsored by APB tonight from 8pm until 9pm in the Campus Center! Get connected and have a ton of fun while doing so!
Some people come to college to secure a great job. But maybe you’re not “some people.” Maybe you came to college expecting to get everything on your check list and more: to learn, meet new people, make new friends, be a part of various activities, AND graduate with a degree you’re passionate about. Regardless of what type of person you are, it’s always a great idea to get involved on campus!
For those of you who have joined a club or have gone to campus events and activities, fantastic! For those of you who haven’t, check it out! Why pay for a car with all the “bells and whistles” if you’re never going to use them? The same idea can be applied to college! Make the most of your experience here!
If you haven’t been involved in any clubs or organizations and are looking to join one, that’s great! If you’re nervous, try going to meetings with a friend who is already in the club. That will relieve some of the pressure of being the “new person” and it’s always comforting to have a familiar face nearby. If you don’t know anyone who is in the club already, try going with a friend who may also be interested! Walking into a room with people you don’t know is never easy so ask a friend to come along. Maybe even grab lunch or dinner beforehand. Whatever makes you happy! What if you have found the club or organization that is perfect but you don’t know who to contact about when meetings are? Not a problem! Visit the Student Involvement interns in their office or contact them through email! Their email is firstname.lastname@example.org. They will be able to point you in the right direction and help you figure out what club is right for you!
Maybe you have joined a couple clubs but you never know when things are happening on campus. Well, luckily for you, a new site was recently launched that has a calendar which displays what’s happening on campus. This calendar contains everything: the Ice Rink schedule, the Outdoor Recreation schedule, Nor’easter News releases and even athletics! It also has everything listed to fulfill your workout schedule! It’s a one-stop-shop that’s easily accessible and easily used! Click here to access this great new calendar and see what activities are going on now!
Here at UNE, it’s easy to get involved! This week there will be The Student Involvement Roadshow sponsored by the Campus Center and Student Involvement as well as Residential Education and Housing! Check out the poster below for dates, times, and what it’s all about!
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